Have you ever felt like you were failing as a mama? Have you ever had one of those days where showering gets put at the bottom of the to-do list because a nap seems way more necessary? Have you ever gone to Target only to realize that your t-shirt is inside out because your sleep-deprived self couldn’t manage to get it on right? No? Just me? I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all been there, where the confidence is low and the self-esteem is lacking. How do we get to a place of confidence? Being a confident mama can be tackled when you take care of three things: your mind, your body, and your soul. Sure these things might be no-brainers, but I’ve come to realize that mom-brain is a real epidemic, so a little reminding never hurt anyone. Here are my seven tips to being a confident mama.
1. Talk positively to yourself.
You were designed to do this. You are beautiful. You can make it through. You are good enough. If you’re not saying these things to yourself on the regular, let me tell you, you don’t know what you’re missing. When I find myself in a hard spot, I speak positive thoughts to myself, and my attitude tends to shift. Words are powerful. Speak praises to yourself, girlfriend. A positive attitude really can brighten your world.
2. Rely on your people.
Keep your people close. Whether that be via text, email, phone call, or in person, know who these people are for you and don’t be afraid to reach out. I am very blessed to have a handful of people I rely on to help see me through the best of times and the worst of times. I promise they are ready and waiting for you when you need them.
3. Trust your mama instinct.
When I first became a mama, I was so insecure. I think it’s a growing process for sure. But one thing I learned very quickly is to trust my maternal instinct. It’s definitely one blessing of an intuition, and when you tune into it and don’t ignore it, it can be a game changer. Know that you are doing the very best for you and your baby. That is all that matters.
4. Dress up and show up.
I know this isn’t always an easy task, especially for us SAHM types. But you know what? I find that when I put on a presentable outfit, wear a little make up, and look as good as it’s going to get, I feel my best. Once I am ready to conquer the day, I show up and am ready for all of life’s crazy adventures.
5. Keep yourself healthy.
As a mama, I think we have a built-in steel immune system most days, but like life, you never know what is going to hit you. It’s so important to keep up with our health. I try and eat healthy on most days, and I try to exercise when I can. I also see my doctor regularly to make sure everything is working as it should. Simple to say, but it’s so important that we stay on top of our own to-do list so that we can manage everyone else’s, too.
6. Find a hobby.
It can be so easy to lose yourself in this best job ever of being a mom, but don’t. You might not be who you were before you had your most amazing family, and that’s perfectly normal and wonderful. Love the new you. Love the things you do. I have found that running and blogging are my two favorite hobbies that make me feel good about myself. They make me happy and are ways I rejuvenate my soul. You need that as a mama. Whatever recharges your batteries, make it happen.
7. Give yourself some grace.
You’re going to mess up. It’s inevitable. I mess up all the time. But when things go wrong and you just want to cry, let it go and give yourself some grace. It’s not the end of the world. Because everything turns out all right in the end, and if it’s not all right, then know it’s not the end.
Stephany Hyder says
I love this! Everything about this. And, I needed to read this. TODAY.
So glad that you loved it, Stephany! Happy to have helped. 😉
Chelsea @ The Contented Wife says
I definitely agree with trusting your mam instinct! It is there – you just have to trust it! When I first became a mama, I was insecure as well…asking everyone’s advice on everything! Finally my mom said “YOU are his mama! YOU know what’s best!” I was so glad she said that because it gave me the confidence to trust my instincts. Great list! 🙂 I also agree with dress up and show up. Showering and getting dressed help so much!
Isn’t that instinct the greatest?! Things really started to turn around once I learned to trust my gut. That internal switch turned on the moment Charlotte was born, but it wasn’t fully activated until she was a few weeks old. 🙂
I still struggle with the dressing up part, but I know that it makes me feel better. When we’re dressed and ready to go, I feel like I’m getting something accomplished.
Thanks so much for joining in on the conversation, Chelsea! We appreciate it!
Jaclyn Kent says
This is absolutely perfect!! <3
Thanks, Jaclyn! We’re all in it together, so it was my pleasure to share the tips that help me out. 🙂
Anne Marie says
These are some great suggestions that I think we all need to be reminded of! I am really bad at relying on my people! I always feel bad about it!
Thank you for sharing on this week’s #SHINEbloghop!
I think sometimes we all feel like we don’t need to bother anyone, but once we reach out, I have found that I always have a friend waiting to help. Thanks for reading, Anne Marie! 🙂
Sarah Marchant says
Positive self-talk really does make a world of difference! Thank you for sharing this post.
Doesn’t it?! Thanks for reading, Sarah! 🙂