Well, I just booked my boys’s birthday venue. I’m making a list of crafts and decorations, figuring out where I’ll order the cake. They’ll be three in 3 short months. How? My goodness – I just brought them home from the hospital yesterday. And I was finding out I was pregnant the day before that. And here we are, planning a Star Wars themed 3rd birthday for two little kids, who really aren’t babies anymore.
And as I’m getting overly nostalgic, and thinking back to my new mom self. About all the new mamas out there having their first babies – the new twin moms. And by no means do I feel like an expert, but for those new mamas, I just want to level with you a little bit. None of us were prepared for this, yes is it chaotic, yes it is hard, yes it’s worth it, and yes there are people out there who get it.
In fact, there are lots of us who just get it. And to prove it, here are a few things EVERY mom of twins has done.
- Gone into complete shock at that first ultrasound. And maybe never got out of it until birth. And you only ever got out of it because you went into shock of actually having two newborns.
- Confused one of your twins for the other. Fun fact – our birth announcement photo that I posted on Instagram? I switched my kids around. I figured it out about 2 weeks later and bawled for an entire day. I now know who is who just by the sound of their footsteps and still call them the wrong name. Go figure.
- Said no to someone who asked if they were twins. Once you’ve hit 15 questions from strangers before you’ve even gotten them buckled in the grocery cart, you tend to get a little snarky.
- Wondered what it’s like to have one.
- Wondered what it’s like to have triplets, and been glad you didn’t.
- Been thankful you didn’t have more newborns than you did boobs. Or hands.
- Held and rocked two babies at once…. and felt like a badass.
- Had to choose between two crying babies.
- Forgotten which kid you fed, and sometimes fed one twice just to be sure.
- Forgotten if you fed yourself.
- Had to explain to a stranger what the difference between fraternal and identical was.
- Had someone ask about your fertility. And your postpartum bod.
- Been so glad you had two at once because they’re each other’s best playmate.
- Been so exhausted from having two at once because they’re each other’s worst enemy.
- Seen another mom with twins in public and accosted her because you automatically have something awesome in common.
- Been thankful you could split things evenly between two kids and didn’t have to be the default eater of yet another 1/2 a PBJ.
- Obsessed over whether you were consciously or unconsciously making things fair between them – your time, your money, gifts, clothes, effort, love, words, etc. Sometimes you’re still not convinced.
- Wondered how two such different people could be supposedly the same.
- Been weirded out when they did exactly the same thing at the same time.
- Been so overwhelmed by having twins.
- Been so freaking blessed by having twins.
So basically – having twins is awesome. Easy? No. Wonderful? Yes. Fulfiling? Yes. Are my hands full? Yes. Do we go through a mountain of diapers? Yes.
But my heart is fuller, and that mountain of diapers has nothing on my mountain of love for those kids. Or the laundry… that one’s hard to beat.
So to any new (or seasoned) Mamas of twins – just know you’re not alone, and that you can do this. We can all do this.